It’s amazing the things you find when you clean a garage (most miserable friggin’ chore on earth!) I found a little teeny weeny diary from when I was 22 and I’m going to share a few pages with you.
People always tell you to put things in black and white. I suggest that to people sometimes myself. It’s simply amazing how when you are able to articulate what you want, you can get it. Okay, maybe not everything. I can articulate that I want $17, 000,000,000 and I’m likely not going to get that (though I am taking donations.) BUT, I can get the things in life over which I have control.
Now let’s peek at the diary. Forgive the chicken scratch handwriting. It’s just as sucky now (as those of you who have autographed copies of my books know.)
Let’s see how I did in the long run with my hubby!
- Loyal: He is more loyal than one of those dogs who get lost while vacationing with their families in Alaska and walks their furry butts across an entire continent for 3 years to get home.
- Trustworthy: He travels for work and I never worry that he’s off doing evil deeds. Bliss.
- Beautiful: While this is in the eye of the beholder, I think my hubby is H. O. T.!!!
- Considerate: More than I ever could have imagined or knew was possible.
- Loving: Good grief yes. Insanely so.
- Affectionate: He’s usually as close to me as my own skin.
- Romantic: If you call fresh squeezed tangerine juice and chocolate chip pancakes in bed romantic. 😉
- Fun: We giggle constantly. We are King and Queen Doofus.
- Easy going: God yes. FINALLY an easy going man!
- Educated: Not formally, but he is one smart mo fo–both street and book. I was an English major and I’m pretty sure he’s more well-read than I.
- Job: FINALLY! A man with a job. Thank God. That shit was getting old (my past is riddled with men who refused to work–ugh.)
- Generous: To a wonderful fault.
- Non-argumentative: This is probably one of his best qualities. I hate fighting (though I’ll do it when pushed.) He almost never pushes me. Sheer heaven.
- Respectful: As the annoying saying goes, “Hell to the yes.”
- Good lover: Mmmmm…mmmmmm…mmmmmm…need I say more??? You can all see the big ass smile on my face in my profile pic. It’s there for a reason. 😉
- Doesn’t check out other girls: In almost 5 years together I’ve never caught him doing this. God bless sunglasses, right?
- Not a sports junkie: Thank goodness no. We watch maybe 2 hours of sports a year.
- Neat: Okay, kind of missed the boat on this one. But of all the things on the list, this is the easiest to accommodate.
- Not an “aholic” of any kind: Whew…thank God. Been there (repeatedly), done that. Didn’t want it again. No “aholics” this time around. Yay!
- Good father: Interesting I had this last on the list. I guess even at the tender age of 22 I somehow knew I’d end up not having kids.
I’m so glad I found that laboratory in which to grow my hubby. Those man-growing pods are amazing!
Now, if you are thinking, “Go screw yourself Jodi!” after reading my List Success, please know that it took 400,000 years to find the man that met this criteria. I’ve dated some lovely men in my day, but Lord have I dated some asshats too. I often wondered what the hell was wrong with me when I’d look back on some of my relationships, but then I realize that they all helped shape who I am today and gave me what I needed to finally open myself up to finding the kind of guy that met my young girl’s dream list.
So, if you aren’t happy with what you have–change it, fix it or run for the hills. Each one of you deserves happiness. Regardless of what you’ve done in your life that may have been sucky, we all deserve joy. Go write your own list. Yes, even if you are 62. Even if you are 15. I hope everyone has List Success (though with fewer preceding frogs) like I have now. I don’t take it for granted for one single moment. It’s so damn nice being happy. XOXOXO