Wedding Vows for the Pagan and Christian Alike!

GASP! You mean a Southern Baptist and a Pagan can get married? Who’d have thought? I believe strongly in God and Jesus, but I don’t force my beliefs on anyone. If my honey finds peace in Buddhist/Pagan/Wiccan beliefs, then I’m just happy he found it. Of course, coming up with wedding vows that talk about The Goddess (for him) and God (for me) and don’t make my mom die from stark horror was not the easiest task. But I was determined! And luckily, once my mom met him and realized that we were perfect for each other, she didn’t really care anymore if the word “Goddess” was in the vows he said. She was just thrilled that we were together.

Because of our somewhat unusual situation, I wanted to write the ceremony from start to finish. I borrowed a lot from much better writers than me (Kahlil Gibran, the Bible, Lao Tzu, Antoine de Saint-Exupery) in hopes of making everyone cry. It worked! I’ve never seen so many happy tears in all my life. It was wonderful. ๐Ÿ™‚

I thought that since we all know each other so well now that I’d share my ceremony with you. Then, any of you out there who are about to get married, especially if you and your betrothed share different beliefs, can see how it can be done.

We had two people officiate our wedding, so that’s why you’ll see the names, “Susan” and “Isaiah”. We wanted to make it easy so we clearly spelled out who was to say what.

Here ya go!

Our Wonderful Wedding

Susan:ย ย  ย ย ย 

โ€œWith joyful hearts we ask you to be present at the ceremony uniting Jodi and Grant.

On this day, Grant and Jodi will become one with each other, as best friends, the one they laugh with, live for, dream with, and love.

All paths of belief have led us here today to rejoice with Grant and Jodi as they join together their souls.โ€


โ€œThe law of life is love unto all beings.ย  Without love, life is nothing, without love, death has no redemption.

Loving is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction.

This union is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection.

As with any aspect of life, it has its cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs.

But there is no fear in love; perfect love casteth out fear.

With full understanding of this, Grant and Jodi have come here today to be joined as one in the bond of marriage. โ€œ

Susan:ย ย  ย ย ย 

โ€œOthers would ask, at this time, who gives the bride in marriage, but Woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and taken.

We ask simply if she comes of her own will.โ€

Susan shall turn to the bride and say:ย ย 

“Jodi, is it true that you come of your own free will and accord?”

(And the bride shall respond:)

“Yes, it is true.”ย  (I actually said, “You bet your ass!”)


โ€œPlease join hands and listen to that which I am about to say. . . . .

Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, as time passes, remember. . .

Like a stone, your love should be firm; like a star, your love should be constant.

Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage.

Let the strength of your wills bind you together.

Let the power of love and desire make you happy.

And the strength of your dedication make you inseparable.

Possess one another, yet be understanding.

Have patience with one another, for storms will come, but they will pass quickly.

Be free in giving affection and warmth.

Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are.

When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.

Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you unease, for God and the Goddess are with you always.โ€

Susan:ย ย 

โ€œBeing deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous.

Love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly.

It does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered.

It does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

You shall be together even in the silent memory of God.โ€



โ€œMarriage brings two people into a unique relationship.

While each is separate, we arrive here with a past full of love and remembrance.

In this union you will share many experiences as if you were one, yet each of you retains your identity.

I invite you now to light this candle as a symbol of the union of your lives.

May your love so endure that its flame remains a guiding light unto you always.โ€


(The bride holds the candle while the groom lights it).ย ย 


Susan:ย ย  ย ย ย 

โ€œThe circle of the ring speaks of the continual nature of love for it has no beginning and it has no end.

May this circle of love declare the unity and oneness of your life together.

And may these rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years before you.โ€

Susan shall then say to the Groom:ย ย 

โ€œGrant, I have not the right to bind you to Jodi; only you have this right.

If it be your wish, say so at this time and place your ring in her hand.โ€

(And the groom shall respond:)

“It is my wish.”

Susan shall then say to the Bride:ย ย 

โ€œJodi, if it be your wish for Grant to be bound to you, place the ring on his finger.โ€

(And the bride shall place the ring on the groom’s left ring finger.)ย ย 

Susan shall then say to the Bride:ย ย 

โ€œJodi, I have not the right to bind you to Grant; only you have this right.

If it be your wish, say so at this time, and place your ring in his hand.โ€

(And the bride shall answer:)

“It is my wish.”

Susan shall then say to the Groom:ย ย 

โ€œGrant, if it be your wish for Jodi to be bound to you, place the ring on her finger.โ€

(And the groom shall place the ring on the bride’s left ring finger.)ย ย 

Then the Groom shall say:ย ย 

โ€œI, Grant, in the name of the spirit of the God and Goddess that resides within us all,

and the love that resides within my heart,

take thee, Jodi, to be my chosen one.

I promise to love thee wholly and completely,

in sickness and in health,

through good times and bad,

in life and beyond.

For hearing my thoughts,

understanding my dreams,

and being my best friend…

For filling my life with music

and loving me without end…

I will love you throughout all eternity.”

Then the Bride shall say:ย ย 

“I, Jodi, in the name of the spirit of God that resides within us all,

and the love that resides within my heart,

take thee, Grant, to be my chosen one.

I promise to love thee wholly and completely,

in sickness and in health,

through good times and bad,

in life and beyond.

For hearing my thoughts,

understanding my dreams,

and being my best friend…

For filling my life with music

and loving me without end…

I will love you throughout all eternity.”


โ€œMay the sacred curve of Her arm enfold you.

May the stars of Her dark veil cover you.

Would either of you wish to speak now, one to another?โ€

(Bride speaks of her love for her Groom.) (There was lots of crying during this part!!)

(Groom speaks of his love for his Bride.)


(Susan explains briefly the symbolism behind the ribbon binding, while Grant and Jodi join left hands and Isaiah begins the binding.ย  Ribbon is tied so that couple can remove their hands without untying the ribbon.)ย ย 

Susan:ย ย  ย ย ย 

โ€œโ€˜Tying the knotโ€™ did not start out being an abstract term.

The lovers’ knot that binds two hands together represents an eternal union.

And the tying of a knot is still practiced as a symbol of love, affection, faith, friendship, and duty.

Love made lasting by tying together.โ€

(Susan removes the ribbon, still tied.)ย ย 

โ€œNow you will feel no rain,

For each of you will be shelter to the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

For each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there is no more loneliness,

For each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two bodies,

But there is only one life before you.

May your days be good and long upon the earth.โ€


โ€œWhere there is love there is life. ย Who, being loved, is poor?

Love fills the moment, and the moment begins eternity.

Love fills a lifetime, and our lifetime begins this hour.

Go together in peace and joy as partners in life, sealing your union with a kiss.โ€

(Jodi and Grant kiss)

โ€œLadies and gentlemen, I have the honor to present for the first time: Grant and Jodi Ambrose.โ€

I hope you enjoyed our ceremony. I thought it was the best day of my life, but it just keeps getting better and better. ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

60 comments on “Wedding Vows for the Pagan and Christian Alike!

  1. Hey, if a staunch conservative can fall in love with a liberal, then anything is possible. BTW, you two DO look perfect together. I can sooo see the two of you sitting across from me and Kristen at our favorite pizza place.


  2. wonderful! thank you for sharing. I may have to re-purpose some of this for my own (atheist) wedding. if the day every comes… ๐Ÿ˜‰


    • I’m so happy you liked it! You are more than welcome to use any of it. There’s so much in there that isn’t necessarily faith-based. And that day will come. Your picture is simply beautiful!! ๐Ÿ™‚


      • i won’t steal anything word for word, but it is a great inspiration. i love that you were able to weave two supposedly opposing belief systems into such a complimentary worldview for *both* on life and love. and it’s true, all one needs is a love of life to appreciate these words.

        PS thank you ๐Ÿ™‚ both for the compliment (your wedding photos are stunning as well!) and for visiting Haichoo! I’ll be seeing more of you and your blog…


        • Thanks so much, Cat. The thought of how to write it (and borrow from much better writers than myself) was initially scary. How do you wed a Christian and a Pagan using words that work for both? But once I sat down to write it, all I did was think about how love was at the center of it all; then it was easier than I’d ever have thought. ๐Ÿ™‚

          And you are very welcome for the compliment. I know a gorgeous girl when I see one. Thanks for the sweetness on our wedding pics. We were just so dang happy. ๐Ÿ™‚


          • You’re very brave to do it, that’s what I loved most about this post. Seeing people who are able encompass another person’s world and life into their own without compromising either’s POV is so important to me. This is how the world should work! Congratulations and (at the risk of repeating myself) thank you!


  3. Your wedding post made me smile and cry at the same time! It is beautiful and I think it holds so much meaning for anyone choosing to marry their soul-mate. My daughter is getting married this summer–I’ll have to direct her to your blog to read your post…I know she will love it, too. May you experience many wonderful years together.


    • Oh Sylvia…I’m so happy that you liked our ceremony and vows. My hubby and I are so blessed to have one another. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Congratulations to you and your daughter for her upcoming nuptials! How wonderful! Nothing on earth more wonderful than getting married. I hope she likes the ceremony too. Tell her to please feel free to borrow from them as much as she wants.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving such a lovely comment. Hugs!


  4. Lovely. I too posted our vows — from nearly 25 years ago — and found them to be timeless. I loved your bringing together the two belief systems. My mother-in-law initially had a hard time with her son marrying outside his faith, but after much heart-felt discussion, she accepted it. And has completely accepted me as one of her own. Anyway, blessings to you both. Thanks for sharing. :>


    • I’m so happy your mother-in-law came around. I always believe that if the ones getting married don’t have an issue with varying faiths, why should anyone else?

      Isn’t it wonderful to look at your vows, especially after 25 years, and see that they really were exactly the right words? Congratulations on the quarter century marriage. That alone is something grand to celebrate!! Thanks so much for dropping by. ๐Ÿ™‚


      • Thanks so much. We have been blessed.

        BTW, I’m going to try to update my post to show this one as a related post. :>


              • I used to be NOT baby-friendly… even after I had my two (who are now 23 and nearly 20)… now, at this certain age: bring on the grandbabies! To which Prince Charming says, “noooooo…. not yet!” LOL


              • Grandbabies are the way to go! My poor mom had 2 daughters, neither of whom had children. None for her. Luckily, she’s never hounded us about it. Whew… I give all my child-love to my kitties, chickens and hamsters. ๐Ÿ™‚


              • Well… I was going to mention furbabies, but wasn’t sure I should go there! Alas, Prince Charming is not furbaby friendly… sigh. ;>


              • Right? We’ve tried from time to time along the way… and probably I can get away with a cat or two, but for now, it’s just more peaceful. For now. :>


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  6. I love how your ceremony brought in both pagan and christian and was wondering if my husband and I could use some points in our own vows? We’re hoping in this coming new year to renew our vows and start fresh after a rough year and our first wedding it was all christian in fornt of a judge but this time around i wanted my pagan believe to be added and your ceremony is so far the only one i can find where they mix. If you wouldnt mind it would help ease my worry but if not then that is fine, i wish you and your husband a very blessed marriage and many years of happiness, blessed be!

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    • Thank you! I’m so happy you liked our vows. I still get all misty-eyed when I read them.

      I would be honored if you and your hubby used any- and everything from our vows. That would thrill me to my toes. I spent a great amount of time and heart trying to combine all of our beliefs into a beautiful ceremony that would be filled with love regardless of one’s religious leaning–I’m just so happy that you like them.

      Please forgive how long it’s taken me to get back to you. I took a vacation from all things Internet for a few weeks over the holidays. Much love to you and your hubby! ๐Ÿ™‚


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  8. Thank you my bf and I have been having a terrible time with this. We aren’t engaged yet but are comfortable enough to talk wedding stuff, we have been friends for a while. But though he isn’t a religious person he’s more about Christian weddings and I am pagan so of course the pagan weddings. I’m hoping this will show him we can indeed combine both in a beautiful wonderful way. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • You just warmed my heart. I’m so happy to hear that our vows may help you and your sweetie.

      The hubby and I have very different beliefs, but have been together for over 8 years and get happier every day. Much love and luck to you and your future hubby. ๐Ÿ™‚


  9. Thank you so much for sharing this! My fiance and I are in this EXACT situation right now (except he’s the Baptist, and I’m the pagan) and we’ve been struggling for AGES to figure this out! You’ve no idea how inspiring and helpful this is! Thank you!

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    • You just warmed my heart!!! I’m so happy that our vows will help you with yours. The hubby and I believe that the most important thing is that we both have peace and grace in our lives, regardless of what beliefs we have that get us to that place. It’s wonderful that you and your sweetie don’t let differing views negatively affect your relationship. I wish for you much love, joy, affection, and a blessed marriage! XOXOXO


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