Online Dating Kicks Ass–if you use your brain and are honest!

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I’m not sure how many of you know this, but I met my hubby online over 5 1/2 years ago. I never thought I’d online date, especially back in 2007 when it was still sort of new and not many people I knew had done it, but I thank God every day that I did.

Here’s how it went down (warning: I’m going to sound like a snobby bitch here in just a moment, but remember, online dating had a less-than-good reputation back in 2007). I was working at a place where I traveled 4 weeks a month. Yep. I stayed home only 4-6 weeks a year. It was HELL!Β  So, I was in NY on a business trip training a bunch of new hires alongside a more seasoned trainer (I’d only been with the company for about a month) and they were all making fun of me for being single (fairly newly divorced). I didn’t care for all the making fun of me. I’m usually pretty good about laughing at myself, but having 10 people give me shit for being single every day for 4 days was a bit annoying. Finally, I tried to explain. First, I’m NEVER HOME! How the hell am I supposed to meet anyone when I’m on the road every week? Second, I’m not a fan of what we in AZ call “Scottsdale boys” or “$35,000 millionaires.” If some guy tells me (lies to me about) how much he makes and what kind of car he drives within 5 minutes of meeting me (while living in a one bedroom apartment with 10 other guys so he can afford the drinks in the fancy Scottsdale clubs), then I have no interest. I’m not that cheap and you can’t buy me on a first date. Sorry, there’s a street in downtown Phoenix if you are looking for that–and, she won’t expect a call the next day!

Back to NY. Finally, they asked me if I’d tried online dating (here comes the slightly bitchy moment). I said, “Um, no. I think I can get a date without going online.” OUCH!!! Every time I think about saying that I wanna kick myself. It’s not at all like me. I think I was just annoyed at being harassed about being single all week, so I was a little snappy. Well, swat my ass–it turned out that EVERY person in the room met their significant other online. What is the chance of that? Statistically speaking, back in 2007, the likelihood of that happening was slim to none. So, after pulling my bitchy, short-tempered foot outta my mouth, I said, “Okay. I’ll do it. I’ll sign up tonight.” And I did!

I went back to my hotel (slum) and wrote up my online profile on match.com. And I did not fuck around. I told it like it is. I remember when my sister read my profile she gently suggested that I might want to temper it a bit as it was pretty blunt (bless her heart for trying to help her Sissy out) but I told her that if a man couldn’t handle me in writing that there was NO way he could handle me in person. Trust me, that mouth of mine is even mouthier face to face! I remember saying that I didn’t want to lure anyone to my table under false pretenses because then when they met the real Jodi they might freak. I did not want freaking–though I met a fair share of freaks!

Here are a few things I learned about online dating before I found the love of my life:

  1. Read between the lines and make sure to analyze their word choice. You can learn a lot about a person by paying attention to how they phrase sentences. Do they use a lot of negative words? Positive words? Too many positive words? Do they not respond to questions you ask? Do they get too sexual too fast? If they make you uncomfortable in an email, it ain’t gonna get any better in person.
  2. While you may start off politely responding “no” to everyone that emails you, you’ll eventually give up on that (probably). At first, I thought it would be horribly rude to not respond to every email. Then I realized that some of the people who emailed me were clearly sending form letters that they’d created so that they wouldn’t have to personalize emails to every girl they wanted to bang. Ummmm…no. If you can’t invest 10 minutes in drafting a personalized email to someone you’d like to meet, then you can go blow.
  3. If you are a girl, I recommend letting guys come to you. I know that sounds old fashioned, and it is, but when you reach out to a guy through online dating they often misconstrue it as you being an easy target for wham bam thank ya ma’am. Not ALL guys are like that. But on a dating site a lot of them are. I prefer to let them approach me so that they don’t get the impression that they’re getting laid halfway through dinner on our first date. NOT!
  4. Be picky! Just because they ask does not mean you have to say yes. If they are jerky when you say no, then just imagine how much jerkier they likely are to be in “real” life. Screw that.
  5. Cyber stalk them before going on a date. I know, I know…that sounds awful. But I met more than one guy whose best friends were Photoshop and a 10 year old picture. Ummmm…not cool, mo fo. Not cool. (I don’t say that to be shallow. I say it because if someone lies from the get-go, that isn’t a good sign.) So, see if they have a Facebook page or Twitter. Do a Google search. A little research in this day and age is not a bad thing. A girl (and guy) must be smart and safe.
  6. Tell at least 3 people where you are going and with whom. Give them as much info as possible. Sneak a pic of your date if you can so if they find your corpse in a ditch a month from now, your phone will have a picture of the last person you saw alive. Yeah…grim! πŸ˜‰

So, how did my dating go? Here’s a synopsis of the online dating misery I primarily experienced:

  1. First guy met me at happy hour. He looked nothing like his pic. He started our date by telling me about his other Match.com dates. I felt so special! Yep, great way to begin. Then he went on to tell me he was the victim of a criminal chick duo he met on Match. Long story short: 2 girls showed up for the date instead of one. He was excited because he thought it was his lucky night for a threesome (charming to hear on a first date). They took him out then took him to their lair (cheap hotel). They tried to knock him out and take his wallet but he got away from them and then, and I quote, “Kicked their assess all over the room.” Yep. I wanna date a man who beats up women even after he’s escaped their evil clutches. He got away from them. He didn’t need to go back in and beat them up–he did it “to teach them a lesson.” I left halfway through the appetizers.
  2. Second guy had no teeth. I mean seriously. No teeth. Maybe one molar. Now, as a broken-tooth nightmare myself I understand tooth issues. But NO teeth!? I could barely understand a word he said. I thought I was being punked by Ashton Kutcher.
  3. Third guy was a HOT FBI agent. Damn he was good lookin’! But I made an ass of myself and we never went out again. While we were having dinner he asked me if I wanted to go to the bathroom. I thought that was such an odd question. Did he have some supernatural connection to my bladder? It wasn’t talking to me, was it talking to him? Only when I got home did I look in the mirror and realize that one of my hair extensions had escaped my head and was hanging off my arm (long story as to why I wore them and I don’t anymore, thank God). Talk about embarrassing!!! Clearly, he didn’t like chicks who wore other people’s hair. Oh well, we had opposite political views anyway. It wouldn’t have worked. Still…stupid hair extension!! Totally humiliating!
  4. Fourth guy I went on about 6 dates with until we went out for the 4th of July on his friend’s boat. They thought it would be funny to fly the boat across the lake at top speed and then do a super sharp turn, which sent me flying and bloodied my face, just to see if I was up for a good time and was a cool chick. Good time? GOOD TIME? You guys actually planned to hurt me (they held on to handles as they knew what was coming so they didn’t go flying across the entire boat and smash their faces into the back of the captain’s chair–ASSHOLES!) to see if I’d pass the “cool chick” test???? Fuckheads. Then he had the balls to email ME and tell me that I was a primadonna princess because I didn’t join them in cleaning up all the empty beer cans on the boat (of which I had exactly zero). Oh, don’t forget, they bloodied my face! Why the fuck would I clean up after them? About a year later he sent me the longest email apologizing for his behavior. Apparently he was in a “misogynistic” phase after a bad divorce. Then DON’T DATE GIRLS YOU DUMB FUCK ASS HAT!!!

Finally, I was like, screw this, I’m done. I stayed on Match.com until October but didn’t go out on any more dates. Ugh. Then one night, while in Chicago on business, I was forced to go to dinner with this wretched bitch from work who I hated. Longest dinner of my life. But thank God for it because by the time I got back to the hotel it was late, but I was determined to cancel my Match.com membership. I logged in and as I was about to cancel one last email popped into my inbox. I read it. Turns out the short and charming email was from my future husband!

Had I not gone to dinner with bitchface, I’d have canceled my membership before he had a chance to email me. Talk about God intervening because he knows what’s best.

So, why did his email stand out from the rest? He addressed a rather unusual comment from my profile (which few had done). And he didn’t give me a single compliment. It was all about personality. I loved it. I emailed him back and we continued to email for 7 hours until we were both ready to pass out from exhaustion and half-broken typing fingers. It was AWESOME!

We met 2 days later for our first date and it’s been just the two of us from that day forward. One of the things he liked so much about me was that my profile was full of spunk and turned out not to contain even one lie (though at the time I wrote my profile I’d just quit smoking and listed myself as a non-smoker, but by the time I met him I’d started again–so that was a bit misleading, but he smoked too so it wasn’t an issue. I’d simply not thought about updating my profile when I lit up again–never crossed my mind.). One of the things I learned about him over time was that his profile was 98% true (and the other 2% wasn’t a lie–it was just slightly fuzzy).

Moral of the story? Be honest on your profile. If you are looking for a one-eyed, 6’2″ man with a vestigial tail, then list that. If you don’t put out there who you are and what you really want, chances are you won’t find it easily.

One more moral? Use pics that look like you. The future hubby’s pics made him look mean, but his profile didn’t read as mean at all so I took a chance. Turns out there’s not a mean bone in his body, even if he did look a little grumpy in the pics.

Before he and I canceled our accounts, I grabbed screenshots of our profiles. I’m going to put them here for you to read (yeah, mine’s long–shocking!). I love rereading them every couple of years. They always make me giggle.

For those of you out there in search of love–much luck to you!!! I kissed a frog or two along the way, but it was worth it since it led me to the love of my life. I wish the same blessing on all of you!!!!

Jodis Match Profile

Grants Match Profile

Good luck to all my single peeps out there!!! πŸ™‚ XOXOXO

70 comments on “Online Dating Kicks Ass–if you use your brain and are honest!

    • Glad you enjoyed! πŸ™‚ I know…total JERKFACE!! Right!!! Ugh. I don’t understand some people.

      I had just awful luck at first, but I’m so glad I kept my membership going for a while even though I wasn’t dating. I’m so very blessed to have found my honey. I hope you find the same awesome love!! πŸ™‚ I’m sending you happy-dating-vibes right now. πŸ™‚

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  1. You are so freaking funny! lmao LOVED this one! I TOO met my husband online and I ALSO told people that I would never do online dating! I could get my own dates… blah blah blah… I secretly made a profile and started dating. I dated several pretty good guys (but no chemistry for me) and 1 meth head. lol THEN I met hubby and that’s all she wrote. 2 years later, I inherited him and his daughter in a marital agreement. lmbo I think back then (2001) the dating site I used was American Singles and profile name was “Catch me if you can”. lol And he DID catch me.

    Thanks for sharing your story!

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    • Why thank you!!! πŸ™‚ I’m so happy you enjoyed it. πŸ™‚

      You and I are kindred spirits! I NEVER thought I’d online date and thank God every day that I did. I love how you starting online dating on the down low. That is a riot! I guess I didn’t exactly advertise it either–just a few close friends and family knew.

      A meth head? Let’s avoid those, please. (If any of my readers are meth heads, I love you–I don’t judge–just thinking it’s not the healthiest habit to be around! πŸ˜‰ )

      Catch me if you can–great handle!!! I’m so glad you are happy. What a wonderful story! πŸ™‚ HUGS!!

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      • HAHA! Love the disclaimer on the meth heads. Yeah, online dating can be fun and an adventure for sure. Glad yours turned out just the way you’d dreamed πŸ™‚ I love happy endings!

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      • Well, you know…I never want to hurt anyone’s feelings. πŸ™‚ Offend and horrify? Yes. Hurt? Never. πŸ™‚ Meth heads need love too!

        Thanks for the sweetness. I’m so happy that I’m happy too! (Lordy, I’m a dork!)

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  2. Heehee, I don’t tell many people, but I met Joe through Craigslist. I was taking a social psychology course, and one of the assignments was to post a personal ad online and record the responses I got, as well as any dates I went on as a result. I’d finally gotten over my ex-boyfriend and figured it was time to move on, but I was broke and couldn’t afford a paid membership to a dating site, so to CL I went.

    The first few dates were, well, frankly, horrible. One guy said he was 6’1, he was shorter than me (at 5’3), AND he tried to shove his tongue down my throat just after dinner, and was upset when I wouldn’t give him a handy in the movie theater :O

    The next date was a drinks affair in which the guy talked about his AMAZING ex-girlfriend for the next hour, and how he was still in love with her. I left when he started crying.

    The third (and final) date was with Joe. He opened the door to the restaurant, headed straight for the bar, and didn’t even try to KISS me when he walked me to my car (and held the door open for me while I climbed in). Needless to say, the rest is history.

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    • Craigslist? No shit. Good for you! πŸ™‚ What a great assignment for a class. It’s the kind of assignment that can be fun AND get you killed all at the same time. Yay! πŸ˜‰

      I feel ya about the horrible dates. You gotta cull through those emails with a fine toothed comb! There are loonies EVERYWHERE!! Ummm…he was pissed cause no handy in the theater? He didn’t find you at whoresRus.com!! Idiot.

      As for the one who starting crying–good Lord have mercy. While this may sound mean, that made me burst out laughing. “Hi, first date girl! I wanna get in your pants, but first I need some therapy over the one that got away…boo hoo hoo.” For fuck’s sake–grow a backbone. Ugh! (Funny as heck as a story though!)

      Thank God the third time was a charm! Yay!!!! I do so love me a door opening man. Good catch, my dear!

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      • I was super careful (googled all of them, wasn’t afraid to bail if he creeped me out, which a few of them did, insisted on meeting in extremely public places, made sure at least three people knew where I was, and had a couple of them call during the date to make sure I was still alive) and emailed/texted with them for at least a couple of weeks before I met them in person.

        All that and I STILL got the crazies. I left in the middle of the movie with Mr. Handy. He still had the nerve to call and ask for a second date. Mr. I’m not over my ex yet gracefully bowed out and never called again, so that was a blessing in disguise.

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    • Thank you!! πŸ™‚ As for church…I believe very strongly in God and Jesus. I pray every day and feel God’s love in everything I do. But, I find that going to church actually disheartens me. I know it brings most people joy to share God’s love with others, but for me I find there is too much politicking in churches and it makes me sad. If I could find a church like the one I went to when I was a kid, I’d probably go sometimes. But every time I’ve gone as an adult, I find I feel worse upon leaving. I am truly blessed that my faith is strong and that even without going to church I am close to God. I’ve certainly born witness to miracles before and know that God is with me no matter where I am. To me, church is everywhere–it no longer has to be within 4 specific walls.

      Thanks so much for stopping by and asking such a thoughtful question. It’s lovely to meet you!

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      • You just made my day. Thank you. πŸ™‚ Sometimes it’s hard explaining that idea to people as church has always been a place with 4 walls. Like you, I see God everywhere I go. It’s such a beautiful feeling. I’m thankful to my wonderful mom every day that she raised me with such a deep belief in God. That faith has gotten me through some rough times and brings me peace even during all the good times. πŸ™‚ Bless you, new friend. πŸ™‚

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  3. Waw … that’s was a success story from online dating, but back to our present … The online dating we have now is too many scam – cheater, some people trying to scam each other … scary and i never trust online dating anymore lol …..

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    • I often tell my hubby that if he ever makes me single again (cause I’d die if I had to go back into the dating world) that I’ll bury him in the backyard with the R.I.P. hamster corpses. I’m only half kidding. Oh Lord…if he ever does die mysteriously this comment is going to come back to haunt me. I swear, your Honor, I’m only kidding!! πŸ˜‰

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  4. I was only reading another blog about online dating…………wasn’t around when I met hubby, we met through a dating agency/introduction agency but 2 of my daughters have tried online dating and both gave up on it because they only ever meet losers

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    • How cool you met through a dating agency! That is awesomely old school!!! πŸ™‚ I bet your daughters are lovely.

      Yeah, I was sick of the idiots I was meeting–I totally get where they are coming from. Thank God I hung on though. Don’t know what I’d do or where I’d be without my sweet hubby!!

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  5. You do know this will help me a great deal. I’m going to send you an email on how my first date went. Yes, I actually had a date (woohoo) I got out and met someone.

    I love your match profile, and I like his profile as well πŸ˜€

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  6. Great post Jodi!! I sooo agree that you must be totally honest when filling in your description. My wife and I met in 2007 on eHarmony and it’s been awesome ever since. I also met some gals whom it was totally obvious that we were never going to click. I would recommend online dating with the recommendation to be extremely cautious. Both of us are so glad to be out of the dating scene too. πŸ˜‰

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    • Thanks John! πŸ™‚

      Honesty is the only way to go. Imagine if I came off all demure in my profile, then they MET ME!!!??? Wow, I’d have had a lot of explaining to do when my mouth started running! πŸ˜‰

      Online dating can be great, but you are so right–you HAVE to be cautious and smart about it. Too many psychos out there looking for lonely people to exploit. BAD! BAD EXPLOITERS!!

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      • Yep!! I told my wife about you two meeting online too, she said that’s cool!! We are hoping to move to Vegas by late summer, we might be kinda-sorta neighbors aye? πŸ˜‰

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  7. Damn! I would have been slutty and responded to your “than” husband ad. I have never seen such an awesome ad written by a man. Although, my BF ad on OKCupid was very real.

    He is extremely shy, looked at my ad, and I later discovered thought I was too pretty to want go out with him. Luckily, I’m intuitive! I had saw that he had checked out my profile and kept being drawn back to his profile. So I did send him an email to him first, I only made a comment how I like the same musician that he put under “the things I would never admit in public.” I figured it was better to know than to wonder if he could have been the one. We emailed each other for 3 months, yeah he is really shy. 15 months later we are going strong.

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    • You always crack me up! Slut!!! πŸ˜‰ Tee hee hee… My mom just raised me to always be chased, never to chase. It’s her Southern roots and I just can’t beat them outta my head! I’m so glad you emailed your man, though! Looks like it worked out perfectly!! And your email was brief and innocuous, which is the right tack to take if you are going to make first contact. You are wise beyond your years, my dear! πŸ™‚

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  8. This was great! Totally agree, it’s SOOO important to be honest on your profile, cuz you’re right…if they can’t handle you in writing, they definitely can’t handle you in person! I love stories like this. You’re actually not the first person I’ve heard of who met their spouse on match.com…so kudos to match.com. πŸ™‚ It’s nice to hear of successful online dating stories. A lot of people think it’s impossible, but clearly, it’s so possible. You guys were meant to be. To think you almost cancelled too soon1 πŸ˜€

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    • Thank you! Actually, I lied about it all. I’m really a 4’2″ half-rabbit, half-human who is mute except for her typing fingers. I have only one eye, blonde hair (in the patches in which it grows at least) and I hate people in general. Luckily, I have a magic wand, so the hubby thinks I’m a 5’8″ raven haired chick. Ha! What he doesn’t know… πŸ˜‰

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  9. Sounds like you had fun. Wonder if there is a way whee could meet hot ladypigs online? Sounds like some might turn out to be ferrets but it would be worth it to find love!

    Nibbles, Nutty, Buddy & Basil
    xxxx

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    • Oh yes, my lovely little furries!! There must be a way for you to meet some ladypiggies online! Who wouldn’t want to meet our adorable little Nibbles, Nutty, Buddy and Basil??? I know I wish I could.

      Now, as for ferrets…they aren’t too bad once you get to know them (though they are a bit smelly!).

      Much love!
      Miss Jodi!

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  10. I absolutely love your candor! You have a way with words and make people giggle! Congrats on your online dating success! You and your hubby are gorgeous! ❀

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    • Thank you so much! I am definitely a mouthy broad! πŸ˜‰ Glad it makes you giggle.

      And thanks too for the sweetness about me and the hubby. What a kind thing to say. πŸ™‚ I must admit, I’m rather fond of his sweet face…

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  11. That’s the most info I’ve ever seen about online dating. I’ve never ventured into that pool and don’t intend to, but this sure was an interesting peek into that world. Thanks! πŸ™‚

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    • I’m just a wealth of info. Ha! I felt like I was writing a tome (War and Peace ain’t got nothin’ on me!) but it was fun to put it all on paper (virtually speaking). πŸ™‚

      Believe me, I’d have not ventured into it had they all not twisted my arm. I must say though, I’m glad I did!

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  12. My, both of you really knew how to sell yourselves, as in being articulate, honest and with humour. Online dating is something I’ve never done, even though I’ve spoken with several who met their partners through the Net. Somehow it just doesn’t appeal. Glad it worked so well for you guys.

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    • Believe me, dear…it did NOT appeal to me either at first. Ugh. But I’m so thankful I did it. Plus, I got to not only meet the hubby, but I got to meet a bunch of weirdos who turned out to be good fodder for a blog post. Win/Win! πŸ˜‰

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  13. This was interesting, and I’m glad it worked out for you. I’m in a relationship now (not via online dating), but I have done it in the passed. Definitely good advice. I must have been lucky because I probably went on 3 dates, and not one “crazy” story. Just bad matches. My question for you, however, is that you both had different wants when it came to kids. I would think that is a deal breaker up front…how did you work around that (unless that is too intrusive)?

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    • I’m quite thankful it worked out too! πŸ™‚ I’m glad you didn’t meet any whackos while online dating. Whew!!

      As for wanting kids–to be quite honest, I figured most men would say that because they’d think saying, “I definitely don’t want kids” would be a turn off for women. I know that sounds bad as I’m assuming someone is lying from the get-go, but it was my gut instinct. As it turns out, he’d have been okay with having kids if I wanted them, but he wasn’t dying to have any–so it worked out beautifully. πŸ™‚ Thank God! (Good question, by the way!) πŸ™‚

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  14. What a fun post! I laughed out loud about your dates. No teeth? Really?? And your hair extension debacle. Each of these could have been a post in themselves. So glad for you that you met the guy of your dreams. I’m up past 50 first dates so my guy is sure to be just around the corner… On the other hand, my dating life provides the best material for my blog!

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    • I’m so glad you enjoyed it!!! πŸ™‚ I swear, I thought I was in the twilight zone while on a few of those dates. It was insanity! πŸ˜‰

      I have no doubt your Prince Charming is but a date away. With your lovely smile and (clearly) good taste in blogs (KIDDING!!!) a guy would be lucky to have you. πŸ™‚

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  15. I loved this post! In fact I shared a link to it on my Facebook page.
    I too, have had crazy dates as a result of online dating. There was the guy who told me he had “cartel connections” & there was the guy who called me in the middle of the night with a hotel room number & oh so many more. Yet my friends wonder why I’m single, lol.
    I will definitely be taking your approach of total being totally forthright next time I decide to give the dating world a whirl. No point in attracting someone who isn’t going to love me for me.
    Thanks for sharing your story!

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    • Good grief!!! It appears both you and I are lucky to have escaped with our lives and virginity in tact! πŸ˜‰ Tee hee hee… πŸ™‚ Glad you made it out unscathed!

      Thanks for the post on your FB page. How sweet!

      I’m so glad you are going to use the forthright approach–I tell ya, I’m so thankful every day that I did. I wouldn’t trade my hubby for the world. I’ve been with men who expect me to fit my personality into a nice, neat little box and I gotta tell you–that is NOT easy and I never wanted to do it again. Thank God the hubby loves me for me. I can finally relax in a relationship. Pure bliss. πŸ™‚ Good luck to you!!

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  16. What a great post and your advice is spot on! I’m not currently doing online dating but when I did, I stayed away from men who wrote their profiles all in negative, i.e. “I DON’T want this….”, and “DON’T email you if you….” I found it very off-putting! I also stayed away from men who had their shirts off in every picture, even if they had nice abs! I’m sorry but if you have to show off your six-pack abs to get me interested, a) you probably don’t have much else going for you and b) you’re probably focusing only on getting laid. Anyway, I’m happy for you that you met your hubby online and that you were able to do so by being yourself πŸ™‚

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    • Thank you!! I’m glad you enjoyed it. πŸ™‚ You were a smart woman to avoid the “I don’t” guys. That is just a recipe for disaster in most cases. Oh yeah, the half-naked guys crack me up. It’s like the chicks in bikinis. Now, I get it if one is just looking for a one night stand, but if you are on there for a relationship that doesn’t seem like the wisest way of getting a man/woman. It’s like you are saying, “Hi. I have nothing to offer but big tits or a nice six-pack.” Yikes! Though maybe Mr. Shirtless and Ms. Bikini would be the perfect couple? Who am I to say? πŸ™‚

      I’m really glad you stopped by! πŸ™‚ Have a lovely weekend.

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  17. ‘They can go blow’…. Love it. I don’t know what I’d do if anything ever happened to hubby – Don’t think I could go through that whole dating game crap. I’d be helplessly, hopelessly lost

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    • You and me both. If anything ever happened to my bunny I would lay down on the floor in the fetal position and suck my thumb until I died and the cats ate me. First and foremost, I’d miss him so much I’d die. Secondly though, if I had to be single and start dating again I’d just turn into an asexual lump of McDonalds french fries until the firemen had to airlift my corpse off the sofa. Yep. That’s how well I’d handle it. GRIM!!! πŸ˜‰ Hopefully, you and your hubby and me and my hubby will all just evaporate one day at the same moment. There one minute, cuddled on the sofa. Poof! Cease to exist the next. That would be the way to do it! πŸ™‚

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  18. You have given me hope. I still need to personalize my profile beyond the initial thing I put together when I joined match.com last week.
    I will try to remember your advice when I get the urge to quit.
    Great post!

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    • I’m so happy to hear that! πŸ™‚ Hope is all kinds of good. I’m glad you are going to personalize your profile. That is the place to be exactly who you are. I remember my friends laughing at me when I put, under the exercise section, NEVER. They were like, “Are you kidding? You are going to admit that in public?” Ummm..yeah. Cause what happens on date 3 when he asks about my exercise routine and it turns out I’m big liar?

      I wish you tons of luck!!! It can be a pain in the tush, but I thank God every day that I did it. Let me know how it goes! πŸ™‚

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  19. I met my partner, Jack, through a dating service, a pre online dating service where you filled out a questionnaire and they matched you based on that. I met about 20 guys before I found Jack. Now, I feel old admitting this!

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  20. Hey schmoo lover:) Love the blog post! I met the love of my life 12 years ago (celebrating 10 years married this summer). You are dead on with being honest, frankly, with both of us being single parents (full time) and had rough divorces, we were in no mood for games. Honesty is best – and I agree with the old fashioned guy comes to the girl. He asked me the other night (during a particularly stressful week), “Glad you married me still?”, I didn’t even hesistate, “Absolutely, who else would make me smile while wanting to strangle you all at the same time?”. Best decision ever to marry the goof. Love your blog – and you are still one gorgeous lady!

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    • Hey there, doll! How nice seeing you over here! πŸ™‚

      Thanks for the sweetness about the blog. BIG HUG to you! Congrats on the 10 years (almost) of marriage! That is an amazing accomplishment. Both the hubby and I had been through divorces too and I think that’s one of the reasons why we were both so honest. We weren’t fuckin’ around this time. We both had a no bullshit rule. πŸ™‚

      Glad I’m not the only one who thinks the old fashioned way of letting a man come to you is a good idea. I always tell women that a man who wants/loves you will climb a mountain barefoot for you–that desire for you should certainly include being able to make the first move.

      Your conversation with your hubby is adorable. Grant and I ask each other the same question sometimes too. It’s nice to hear, “Hell yeah!” Really happy you are happy. Nothing like the love of a good man to make the world a better place. Oh, and thanks for the lovely compliment. Insert blushing here. πŸ™‚ XOXO from Shmoo Lover!

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  21. Beautiful… Simply beautiful… I meet my love online in 2005, life changing my friend.. it is absolutely altering to a love of souls that we never had. Although it became a disaster it was a beautiful magnificent disaster. That changed me forever more. It is amazing how we wake up when we been asleep at the wheel so long. πŸ™‚

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      • My dear friend… If you happen to stumble to my latest post you may experience the bliss I have found with my love. We are in the most profound spiritual relationship in the deepest love one can experience here. Thank you for the response. Remember true love has to have true pain to endure to test the measure of depth to how deeply you can experience each other. The truth inside of it truly is what sets you free. ❀

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