Hello, all my lovelies!
About a month ago I posted a poll on whether or not you guys thought it was a betrayal to seek sexual satisfaction from real, live people outside of your relationship via phone or computer.
A big thanks to all of you for your thoughtful responses and poll answering.
It was so hard for me not to spew my opinion all over the place when I wrote that post, but I didn’t want to sway anyone’s thoughts on the matter before they had a chance to comment or vote. Of course now, I’m nothin’ but sass mouth on the topic!! 😉
In case you’re wondering, I used the info from that poll to write my latest article for The Acquiring Man magazine.
If you voted or just wanna see the article, click HERE or on the pic below (dang, that chick is hot!).
PS: there is one typo in the article that is repeated 4 times that is making my brain itch! But the editor is going to fix them. He added the line because it’s a great summary of the article–I should have included it myself, so I’m glad he added it in. But as you guys know, I can be a grammar nazi, so forgive the missing apostrophe for now. 🙂
Nice article and I get it, but…is a “happy ending” massage, cheating? What if she’s wearing rubber gloves? I mean it IS kind of a medical procedure. 😉
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Mr. Daly…am I going to have to fly to CA and kick your ass? I’m willing to do it! 😉 “…if she’s wearing rubber gloves?” That had me dying laughing! 🙂 XO
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Great article Sweetie. I’m glad the stats were so high for saying it’s cheating even when it’s digital. Next thing to ask is how many would do it given the chance.
xxx Massive Hugs xxx
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Thanks, doll. I was relieved to see such high numbers too. I was actually a little surprised that they weren’t a tweak higher. It seems odd that one out of 10 wouldn’t think it to be a betrayal. I wonder if that 10% is involved (or has previously been) in that kind of online behavior themselves? That’s not me judging, to each his own. Who am I to throw a stone? That just seemed like a high percentage to not care if their significant other is bopping others online or on the phone. I’d bury my hubby in the backyard with all the hamster corpses! 😉 HUGS!
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Loved this
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I’m so glad you liked it, sweetie. 🙂 I can’t believe how many people have been talking to me lately about their broken relationships because of online sex. It’s just incredible to me for someone to waste what’s real to delve into what’s utterly fake. I guess I’m a little old fashioned…but I’m okay with that. 🙂 XO
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http://andthemoonseesall.wordpress.com/2014/07/26/sunshine-blogger-award/
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The article rocks, my dear! I have posted it on my blog since I have discussed this very same topic more than once. I am proud of you.
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You just warmed my heart! You know, it doesn’t matter how old I get, it still means so much to hear someone say they are proud of me. Thank you so very much. XOXOXO
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Awesome post and loved the article too. So glad to see “most” people men and women see it as unfaithful. There is also the issue of relationships later in life where sex becomes an issue of not happening because of physical changes. If you have not made other parts of your relationship strong then there is nothing left to build on. Especially if it is only one sided and not a problem on BOTH sides. Sometimes there is more to life than sex *sigh* you just have to adjust your priorities. You can have intimacy in more than one way…… but looking for it outside your marriage… online is NEVER OK! No matter what!
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Thanks doll! And you are SO VERY RIGHT when you talk about how sex can greatly diminish as we get older because of all sorts of reasons. To keep a loving relationship going in the face of that, there simply has to be more to the relationship than happily slapping body parts together. I couldn’t agree more. And as with all things, sexuality ebbs and flows naturally. Sometimes the mood just dissipates for a while for one person and in a strong relationship the person who isn’t “ebbing” understands and realizes there are so many more important things in life. While I wish everyone was getting properly shagged as often as they want to, that’s not the reality. And understanding that and working with what one has is one very important key to a long and happy life.
And like you say (could I possibly start more sentences with the word “and?”) regardless of what’s going on sexually, there’s never an excuse to look for it outside of marriage. Once you violate that trust, everything goes to shit. I wish more people would keep that in mind before being naughty in a bad way online. Glad you and I are kindred spirits on this! 🙂 HUGS!
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