Quit being a fucktard

Seriously, I’ve tried to write this post 50 times and keep deleting it.

I’m trying to be delicate and inoffensive (which, I know, is rare!).

But I’m just going to say it.

People have a right to be who they are. Period.

If you don’t like it, don’t look at it.

If you don’t like it, don’t go to their parties.

If you don’t like it, don’t invite them over for Sunday dinner.

If you don’t like it, tough noogies.

I can GUARANTEE that no matter what kind of clean-living life you think you lead (and by you, I mean everyone on earth), there is someone on this planet who despises your faith, your politics, your sexuality, the color of your skin, etc…

It is sad that people hate so quickly and easily for something as little as where someone else sticks their dick.

Who the hell cares?

All of us have done or do things that others wouldn’t approve of, but we don’t want to be judged.

So, here’s an idea, don’t judge others either.

There will always be people you don’t like. I can name a few off the top of my head that I’d like to see eaten by prairie dogs. But it’s not because of who they sleep with, what church they attend, how much or little melanin they have in their skin.

If I hate a mother fucker it’s because they treat people like shit. It’s a personal kind of dislike that is rooted totally in the fact that that person makes a conscious effort to ruin other people’s lives in a direct, person-to-person way.

A transgender couple in Alabama is not mean to me, therefore I hope they are happy and live wonderful lives.

A biracial couple raising biracial kids in Washington is not mean to me, therefore I hope they are happy and live wonderful lives.

A gay couple getting married because they are in love is not being mean to me, therefore I hope they too are happy and live wonderful lives.

What I can never understand is why people latch onto things that they personally think are unacceptableΒ because they fall outside of their own view of the world, and then choose to rail on about how bad, evil, against God, unnatural, blah blah blah those ways of life are.

Honest to God, one of the best things anyone can do both for society and for themselves is learn that a world full of happy, loving, tolerant, non-judgmental people, who spend their time doing things to BETTER the world rather than spitting venom into it, is a better world in which everyone can find their bit of joy.

I remember once being preached at by someone about how gays are ruining the world. Meanwhile, this person was married and having not one, but two, affairs.

Hmmm…I think that those without sin should chuck that first rock. The hypocrisy about killed me. But then everyone can find ways to defend their own lifestyle choices, while condemning others’ right to make their own.

My mantra is this: Wake up. Hurt no one. Go to sleep. Wake up. Repeat.

To me, and only to me as everyone is allowed their own opinion, that is the way to lead a truly happy life.

I don’t worry about who fucks who.

I don’t worry about who prays to what God.

All I care about is that we are kind to each other and try to create a world where our children will grow into happy, healthy adults where the word “tolerance” isn’t even a part of their vocabulary because allowing someone to live a life different from their own isn’t “tolerating” anything. It’s just how it is and all’s good.

I know there may be people who read this and say that I’m trying to choke my own thoughts down their throat so aren’t I a big ole fucking hypocrite? Well, if me sharing that I want people to live wonderful, judgment-free lives where differences aren’t only tolerated but celebrated, then I’m okay being labeled a hypocrite.

I hear all the time from people defending their right to hate somebody that “MY God doesn’t approve of that,” when it comes to the way some people choose to live their lives.

Well, let me just say this. My God is loving. My God sacrificed his Son for our sins. My God judges lives when you walk though the Pearly Gates–so that means you don’t have to do His job for Him.

When it all comes down in the end…when you look back on your life…do you want it to be full of antagonism, prejudice, hate, intolerance and judgment?

Or do you want to look back and say, “I did my best to create a good life, bring people around me joy, and now I can die knowing I did the best I could.”?

I vote for the second option.

In those last moments will you think about all the people you hated or will you think about the love you’ve been blessed enough to know?

If the answer is “the love” then why wait until your final moments? Why not live that life now?

But better people than me have written about such things, and so here are words from a very wise person about The End.

In my rear view mirror the sun is going down
Sinking behind bridges in the road
And I think of all the good things
That we have left undone
And I suffer premonitions
Confirm suspicions
Of the holocaust to come.

The rusty wire that holds the cork
That keeps the anger in
Gives way
And suddenly it’s day again.
The sun is in the East
Even though the day is done.
Two suns in the sunset
Could be the human race is run.

Like the moment when the brakes lock
And you slide towards the big truck
You stretch the frozen moments with your fear.
And you’ll never hear their voices
And you’ll never see their faces
You have no recourse to the law anymore.

And as the windshield melts
My tears evaporate
Leaving only charcoal to defend.
Finally I understand the feelings of the few.
Ashes and diamonds
Foe and friend
We were all equal in the end.

40 comments on “Quit being a fucktard

    • Thanks, hon. You are the best. πŸ™‚ I’ve just been so disheartened with all the shit I’m seeing on FB condemning others because of how they live their lives. It just breaks my heart and I had to say something. I usually try to keep it light, but every once and a while…

      So, how the heck are you??? I miss everyone here so much. I wish I had more time to spend doing the things I love–my job is trying to kill me this last year.

      Give yourself a HUGE HUG for me!


    • Thanks so much for that. Honestly, I tried writing that post a zillion times trying not to be offensive and then finally just said fuck it. I’m writing this from the heart and I don’t care.

      I hope you are doing great, my friend. All well with you?

      Much love! XOXOX

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  1. I find nothing wrong with this post . Things like this should be said. Though not sure if I’m a hypocrite but , I believe in forgiveness, try not to judge others. Example be married and the spouse cheats . But you choose to forgive. And hope the trust comes back.


  2. Love wins!! I agree, the level of fucktard that has been brought about but this Supreme Court decision is outrageous. Personally, I think it should never have been an issue. Also, I don’t give a fuck who anyone is fucking unless it makes for a fun story, or deserves a high-five.


    • Preach on, gorgeous girl! I did something I thought I’d never do, but I actually unfriended someone (what, am I in 3rd grade??) on Facebook because of their commentary on the Supreme Court decision. They told “homos” that they were going to burn in Hell. While I agree everyone has a right to their own opinion, I refuse to allow that kind of poison into my life. Out ya go, mo fo! And I totally agree with you–I only care who’s boinking who if there’s a fun story in it. πŸ™‚ XOXOOX

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      • I had to do the same. I live in rural Kansas where there are still old laws on the books about oral sex and sodomy, though obviously they are not enforced unless there is a rape involving sodomy, but they were never removed from the books. People are awfully old-fashioned and judgey here. I would have liked to have used the Loving v Virginia argument that bi-racial marriage wasn’t always legal but now it is not an issue…but those same people on my facebook feed were the sort who would let that argument fall on deaf ears. I had to use every ounce of my willpower to tell him that the “homos” he was trying to use scripture against were probably having way better sex than he and his fat, unattractive wife were having. ooooooh I just thought of an excellent idea….I think we should mail glitter in a rainbow of colors to each one of these haters anonymously, since glitter is the herpes of arts and crafts. We could brighten their lives with the rainbow glitter and laugh maniacally at the knowledge that years later they’ll find a spec here and there stuck to their carpet! Love wins!


        • OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO FUNNY!!! I love the glitter bomb idea! This visual made me laugh and laugh….”We could brighten their lives with the rainbow glitter and laugh maniacally at the knowledge that years later they’ll find a spec here and there stuck to their carpet! Love wins!” Well done, pretty lady. Well done! πŸ™‚

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  3. Beautifully written Jodi. Our job is to create the nicest world possible for the people who live in it. Be nice, Do nice and maybe the world will be nice back. Spend your life disapproving and you soon remove all the joy from it.
    There’s no chance of that ever happening with you Jodi with that wonderful attitude. Live and let love is as good as it gets.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx


    • Thank you, sweetheart. πŸ™‚ I agree totally. I don’t know why people think we have to always agree in order to still be kind to one another. That just doesn’t make any sense to me. Big hug from across the Pond! XOXOXO


  4. Nicely, passionately written. I do not agree with the Court’s ruling on the basis of case law, the Constitution and the political overtones of this ruling….the law trumps love in this case….but keeping the fucking State out of our lives is paramount and out of marriage and love…that said…love may eventually win once the agitating bastards behind the scenes stop the bigger game.


  5. Making an effort to be nonjudgemental is an every day challenge. When I realize I’m being judgmental, I try to acknowledge it and stop right there. It would please me greatly to be recognized as a person who succeeds!


  6. you have essentially just summed up the last 5 month battle i’ve been having with my bf. To me when someone expresses hate for other people just because of their sexuality, skin colour, gender it implies self-pride and that they see themselves better than them in the eyes of God or whoever or whatever they believe. I equate them all, judging someone for their skin colour, is just as horrible as judging them for their gender etc!!! Love Love love your post xxx


    • I’m sorry you are having that battle with your BF…that can be so hard. I am in total agreement with you, whether it’s race, religion or sexuality there is just no place for judgmental fuckery. I’m so happy you stopped by…come ’round any time. πŸ™‚

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  7. Can you hear me clapping I am so with you here, I feel there is only one real judge about how people live their lives and that is God, you don’t have to like me that is fine but that doesn’t give you the right to be a nasty bitch, my life is just that my life and if I don’t tell you how to live your life you can’t tell me how to live mine………………….I don’t understand hate maybe there is something wrong with me as I take people as I find them, if I don’t like them I don’t spend time with them

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    • I LOVE YOU! Exactly. No nasty bitches just because they disagree with how I live my life. My thought? They can pretty much fuck off. My dear, there is nothing wrong with you–we need to clone you times a million so you can teach everyone else your wonderful philosophy. XOXOXOXOOX


  8. I feel like I may not be the type of person to bring about great change in this world, but one thing I refuse to be is someone who makes another persons life harder or unhappy just for the hell of it. Mean people just suck.

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  9. Ok, I’m just gonna say – think what you will of me – While I may not agree with same sex marriage and think it’s against G-d & Bible… That doesn’t mean I think it’s right to rail on these guys or to treat like shit or kill for that reason… I have no patience for those who would “Kill (or be mean) in name of G-d”. If I disagree, I don’t have to vote for… Doesn’t mean I’m going to go around being mean & hateful and wishing all the ills & evil of world onto those who live differently than I do…

    OK, so there, I said my piece… But as I said that’s just my IMO you (meant in general sense) have right to your opinion as I have right to mine.

    “My right to throw my fist stops where your nose begins” ~ source unknown (Some army general, I believe).

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    • Sweetie, your opinion is always welcome here. πŸ™‚

      I love that you have your own point of view and that even when you don’t agree with certain lifestyles that you still think there is no reason to be mean and hateful. That’s one of the things that makes you such a doll. It’s easier to not be mean and hateful when you don’t think someone is doing something wrong. It shows strength of character to really believe that something is wrong but to still show kindness.

      Love the quote by the way. Totally apropos! XOXOXOXOXO

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  10. Well said girlfriend! Now…. while there are elements in this world I do not agree with, I do my level best not to be judgmental. Although on occasion I probably still do it. I think it is human nature. However, under no circumstances is it EVER okay to be mean just for the sake of being mean!
    Hate the sin, love the sinner!
    Christ was about love period! He was ridiculed by the priests and those in authority because he hung out with… wait for it… the tax collectors, and heathens and sinners! NO! Say it isn’t so! He loved EVERYONE! He DIDN’T say it was ok to do what they did! But He loved on them anyway! None of us deserve His grace, yet we have it. And HE is the only one who can sit in judgment.
    Your post is awesome!


    • I’m pretty sure I’m ridiculously in love with you right now. Yep. Totally smitten.

      While I cuss and do all kinds of crazy things, I’m a good Christian girl at heart and believe in exactly what you said. Christ was all about the love. Eeee gawds… He even loved the hookers! Others’ lives are not for us to judge and kindness pretty much kicks ass. Love you, sweet stuff!!!!

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  11. Everything you posted is exactly how I feel. Why hate on others when all they’re doing is living their lives and not hurting anyone. Too many haters with no common sense because they let their ignorance and their “follow the leader” attitude take over without getting to know the ways of others…It takes guts to say it like it is and I’m one who have made I’m sure plenty of enemies because I treat others the way I want to be treated and you nailed it by writing how we all have things not everyone likes….so in closing….kudos to you for your boldness in your writing… EFF the IGNORAMUS fools who fear what they do not understand…..LOL sorry, got carried away.


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