Where I Get My Strength


This is how I stay strong.

This is how I survive.

This is where I get my peace.

This is what gives me grace.

Merry Merry Merry Christmas!

So, I just wanted to reach out to everyone and wish you a most wonderful Holiday Season.


Whether you are a Christmas maniac like me or celebrate something else that brings you joy, I hope your lives are filled with wonder and happiness, good food and great family.


You guys know I prepare for Christmas all year long. I think I started buying Christmas presents the day after last Christmas. I know, I’m nutso cuckoo, but I have a tremendous amount of fun buying presents. I do hate wrapping them though. Next year I’m hoping to hire someone to come wrap them. (I’m only half kidding!) 😉

But more than Santa and presents, cheesy taters, ham and Mom’s macaroni salad (drool!). More than taking TWO ENTIRE FUCKING WEEKS OFF WORK WOO HOO YAY HALLELUJAH! I also wanted to share with you what Christmas really means to me.

I know that I’m a sass-mouth. I know I curse a lot (see above paragraph!). I know I can be raunchy. I know that I wouldn’t know a filter if someone stuck one on my mouth and held a gun to my head.

I also know that I almost never go to a four-walled church and haven’t since I was 18.

I know that of the two men I’ve married in my life, neither one of them were Christian. More Buddhist/Wiccan/Pagan than anything, the both of them.

I know I rarely, if at all, talk about religion here on my blog–there are plenty of other blogs dedicated to that–I typically keep mine light, smart-assy, or ranty.

But during Christmastime, when the celebrations are at an all-time high and the world is swirling with garland and eggnog, I just wanted to take a minute to share with you the two sentences that, to me, have brought me the most wonderful peace in my life.

For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.

For God so loved the world he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish, but have everlasting life.


Though this may surprise you, I have a deep faith in God and Jesus. To me, church is EVERYwhere, not just the building down the street with the steeple.

I thank God all the time for the wonders of my life. I know I’m blessed. And while of the last 45 years, a great many of them held infinite-seeming pain, both physical and emotional, I’ve always considered myself very blessed to have the Grace of God in my heart.

I don’t know what I would have done all these years without the faith I carry inside me each and every moment of my life.

I wish for all of you this Christmas a life filled with blessings and love and joy and strength.

And, while I think I may have posted this little video last year, I’m posting it again because every time I watch it, it makes me happy.


Happy Easter from a Sass-Mouth!

I wanted to wish everyone a very happy and blessed Easter. While to a lot of people it’s a day of Easter Bunnies (I put together 2 baskets myself!) and good food, for me it’s that and a day to thank God and Jesus for the both the sacrifice and the gift that bless us all.

I know I have the mouth of a trucker, write books about sex and love and relationships, and am as sarcastic as the day is long, but under all of that is a wonderful and personal relationship with God. I am so very thankful to God each and every day of my life for blessing me with all the amazing gifts I experience on a daily basis. I have a wonderful mommy and sister. My aunt, who is terminally ill with ovarian (and a few other types of) cancer has managed to outlive all the doctor’s expectations and even has good days sometimes. My husband is the kindest, funniest, sexiest, cuddliest, most generous man on earth. I have a good job, successful books and my health. These blessings come straight from God and I am so very thankful for them all.

I know how dark life can be, as I’ve been in that black room more than once. But knowing that the strength, love, compassion and kindness of God is right there if I need it reminds me that the light is but a step away at all times. I’ve been blessed more than once with miracles from God and today I want to thank Him publicly for His ever-present, guiding hand.

Happy Easter everyone and blessings to you all.