Thanks to all of you who listened to my interview on Cougar Chat radio the other night! I really appreciate it.
Something that we briefly discussed has sparked my typing fingers this morning. The ladies on Cougar Chat shared with me that they are Ghost Hunters; which I think is super cool. Good for them to have such an unusual hobby! When I gave them a positive response they seemed slightly surprised as they’d previously received negative feedback from guests when they mentioned their ghost hunting fun. I told them not to worry. They were in a judgment free zone when talking with me. “Who am I to judge you?” (I believe that’s approximately what I said.)
The more I think about that conversation, the more it bothers me that people would be so quick to judge them for their hobby. Actually, I find it annoying that people judge others so often for so many things. Who is so arrogant to believe that everything they do is so perfect and right that if someone else does something different that they are wrong and in need of critical judgment? I find that reprehensible.
Here’s my take on what other people do: As long as you aren’t hurting anyone, let your freak flag fly! If you are hurting someone, then may you get an extremely virulent case of herpes that flames up every other day.
I guess one of the things that bugs me about judgmental people (oh my, is that me judging judgmental people? It might be. Dang. Oh well!) is that they tend to act superior to everyone else. “I’m so good and everything I do is right. You suck balls and everything you do is wrong. I’m so glad to be me!” Ugh, gimme a break. To those people I say, “Bite my ass.”
Not only do judgmental people do harm to those around them by making others feel inadequate, stupid, less-than, worthless, etc… but they do harm to themselves. People who walk around judging others are typically full of hate. They hate others because those other people don’t conform to their world view. Well, your world view might work for you, but why should it have to work for everyone else? How sad it must be to be a judgmental person. What a burden they must carry to always be so concerned with what others are doing. I wonder that it comes, ultimately, from a place of insecurity. I wonder that telling one’s self that everything you do is right and what others do is wrong is a way to validate yourself so that you feel better about who you are. I wonder if it’s a way to feel elevated because maybe there have been people in your life that have made you feel small and low.
Whatever the reason, if any of you reading this tend to be judgmental, please know that I’m not trying to run you over with my car here. I’m just trying to figure out why putting others down is such a commonly taken path. It seems like it would take a great deal of energy to be judgmental. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m not without sin here. When people send me those, “People of Walmart” emails I sometimes chuckle and think, “Oh good Lord…what on earth?!” But I simultaneously feel bad for the person because I think of what that person must have encountered in their life to get to that place. Sometimes though, I celebrate that person because good for them to not give a shit what other people think! You go rock out with your… (fill in the blanks here, my friends!)
Okay, so I’m almost done bitching.
Here are a few words of wisdom that truly help guide me on a daily basis.
Those without sin, cast the first stone.
Judge not lest ye be judged.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.” Paulo Coelho
“The more one judges, the less one loves.” Honore de Balzac
“A major advantage of age is learning to accept people without passing judgment.” Liz Carpenter
“Quit being an asshole.” Jodi Ambrose 😉 Sorry, had to throw that in there.
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